The next chapter!

Hey hello there! So, the year ends here! What a roller coaster it has been. Ya! I know, I know, Long time, no see. Haven’t wrote in a while but this year have taught me a lot of things.So, let me share my feelings with you and let me know in the comments if our feelings are mutual?

Another year full of adventures, travelling and experiences. I have mixed feelings about this year. You know december is my favourite time of the year. It doesn’t have one particular reason, it’s the cold wave that touches my face that feels so fresh, it’s the shorter days and the longer nights, the blanket and the hot coffee that reminds me that, well! I lived another year. December is not just a month but a celebration for me. The nostalgia that gives me of Foggy sports days in my school, the ice cream cone after my tution and the winter night walks with my favourite people. December reminds me the best part of my childhood. You may relate to any other form of happiness over the year like winter is for me.

Well in the rush of our lives, the race of which we have become a part unknowingly , we all are definely forgetting those feelings. Aren’t we? We all have lots on our check list to be completed in certain timeline, keeping ourselves unneccesarily occupied. It would have been so nice if we would have stopped following and comparing eachother’s timeline and accepted the fact that everyone has their own timeline, own pace to acheive in life. It’s not a competion, it’s not a destination either rather it is the journey you had matters.

This year started with self-doubt, confusion and restlessness. you know that feeling of getting stuck and not able to move forward? well! I felt the same about my job. Being an ambitious person, unable to navigate my career made me feel clueless and worthless. But here I am grateful for the people around me who uplifted my spirit and helped me to sail through this storm.Haha! Dramatic enough? Yes? No? Maybe?

Well we all have been a lot through out the year! Haven’t we? Well, the best part is that we all are here in december, overcame and enjoyed whatever came our way and lived through the year. I am proud of you and you should also feel the same about yourself.

The next year which is 2024 has a lot of surprises may be bad or may be good or maybe it might not feel anything but today let us promise ourselves to do better than we did this year. Be kind to others but most importantly to ourselves, empathetic towards others but also understand and accept that we are doing our best. It is now time that we acknowledge that some things are not in our hands and we need to forgive ourselves before anyone else to be at peace. Hoping this new year brings a lot of self awarness and self acceptance and may we all find peace with in ourselves and feel content with our lives. Let us promise ourselves to keep learning and growing no matter what!

To the people who have always been there for me! Thank you! and people who left, Thank you!
So, here we are, the year ends here! What a roller coaster it has been.

Attachments and insecurities.

I don’t know if you could have the same thought as I do but I believe attachments and insecurities are two sides of one coin. These two terms are directly proportional to eachother. The more you’re attached to someone or something,the more you have the insecurities. You try to protect them,hide them somewhere safe and most probably fight with others for them.

Insecurities are both constructive and destructive. As the saying goes,nothing in excess is healthy. Insecurities beyond expectations are always toxic. We assume insecurities are the sign of pure love. But I question do you not trust your own love enough to not be insecure about something or someone? Or do you think they deserve better than you? What exactly are you insecure about?

I know it’s easier said than done but for a change let me question do you really really need to over protect someone that it feels stuck in your love. Taking forward the relationship between the attachment and the insecurities. Attachments that we experience from childhood are the root cause of insecurities. Someone who have gone through tragedy during childhood would always freak out for that thing.Because the fear always sets in in a child’s mind and usually end up developing inferiority complex.we start to assume and approve everything according to our past experiences .There are very few people who are able to surpass the energies of past but there are many individuals all over the world who are still stuck in their bitter past.

The way we’re bought up,the environment we survived in, all have some or other impact on our future. We are all surrounded with our experiences. But let’s be fair with the person we love. He or she may not have the same experiences ,same past.They may not be comfortable with what we are comfortable with. Let’s give them enough space to live in, support and respect them for what they stand for, respect their decisions and most importantly respect them and their freedom as a human being. ❤️

—Mamita Mallick

Lots of love ❤️

Dear Ex

You know what I don’t find any point on writing a whole blog on you. But I am writing a blog for someone who could relate this, For them whom I could comfort by giving them company in their sadness that every ex have given to their ex.

Starting from the day you leave saying that we ain’t worthy of your love to the day we realize that you ain’t worthy of anyone’s love. We go through a rollercoaster of feelings, fall into depression the hell lot deeper where no one could drag us out but we ourselves.

When you leave us abandoned,used and depressed we don’t blame you,rather we blame ourselves for not being enough for you instead of realising how unworthy you are for the try. I have no bitter feelings for you,even better? I don’t want to have any feelings for you. I would never have love but I would not waste my hate on you. So chill.

You never blame yourself for cheating on us but start giving explanations for how we are not made for eachother. Do you even respect yourself enough to atleast speak truth to your own soul?? Do you even realize that saying someone ugly and unworthy is a hurtful thing? Do you?

Ahh no you don’t and that being the reason behind you being the ex and not the present. Since childhood I have learnt to thank everything and everyone that teaches you lessons and gives you strength. I would ofcourse thank you for giving me pain which is the biggest strength I could ever have.

We learn to deal with the pain,know our worth and never look back for the unworthy people like you.May be you’re worthy for someone else , something else but you’re definitely not worthy of our love,care and respect. Do you realise using someone when you need them is not loving them rather it’s exploiting them.

To the one going through pain and need support.please stop blaming yourselves. you’re much more worthy than you think. Realisation is all you need. Loving yourself is more important than being loved by the other.I know it’s difficult but its worth a try. Trust me you’re going to be ok someday and thank god for everything happened. 🌹

–Mamita Mallick

Lots of love ❤️💕