The next chapter!

Hey hello there! So, the year ends here! What a roller coaster it has been. Ya! I know, I know, Long time, no see. Haven’t wrote in a while but this year have taught me a lot of things.So, let me share my feelings with you and let me know in the comments if our feelings are mutual?

Another year full of adventures, travelling and experiences. I have mixed feelings about this year. You know december is my favourite time of the year. It doesn’t have one particular reason, it’s the cold wave that touches my face that feels so fresh, it’s the shorter days and the longer nights, the blanket and the hot coffee that reminds me that, well! I lived another year. December is not just a month but a celebration for me. The nostalgia that gives me of Foggy sports days in my school, the ice cream cone after my tution and the winter night walks with my favourite people. December reminds me the best part of my childhood. You may relate to any other form of happiness over the year like winter is for me.

Well in the rush of our lives, the race of which we have become a part unknowingly , we all are definely forgetting those feelings. Aren’t we? We all have lots on our check list to be completed in certain timeline, keeping ourselves unneccesarily occupied. It would have been so nice if we would have stopped following and comparing eachother’s timeline and accepted the fact that everyone has their own timeline, own pace to acheive in life. It’s not a competion, it’s not a destination either rather it is the journey you had matters.

This year started with self-doubt, confusion and restlessness. you know that feeling of getting stuck and not able to move forward? well! I felt the same about my job. Being an ambitious person, unable to navigate my career made me feel clueless and worthless. But here I am grateful for the people around me who uplifted my spirit and helped me to sail through this storm.Haha! Dramatic enough? Yes? No? Maybe?

Well we all have been a lot through out the year! Haven’t we? Well, the best part is that we all are here in december, overcame and enjoyed whatever came our way and lived through the year. I am proud of you and you should also feel the same about yourself.

The next year which is 2024 has a lot of surprises may be bad or may be good or maybe it might not feel anything but today let us promise ourselves to do better than we did this year. Be kind to others but most importantly to ourselves, empathetic towards others but also understand and accept that we are doing our best. It is now time that we acknowledge that some things are not in our hands and we need to forgive ourselves before anyone else to be at peace. Hoping this new year brings a lot of self awarness and self acceptance and may we all find peace with in ourselves and feel content with our lives. Let us promise ourselves to keep learning and growing no matter what!

To the people who have always been there for me! Thank you! and people who left, Thank you!
So, here we are, the year ends here! What a roller coaster it has been.

Failure? No. The stepping stone.

Have you all ever experienced failure ? Failure in terms of academics, sports, or you may say some activity you like or above all , “your dreams”? Failure seems to have impact on everything we do even when we don’t want it to have any impact. See, when failure strikes us when we believed we’ve done enough for the success is worst. Accepting it and moving on is hard. But is that going to help us anyways? NO. Is this going to be undone? NO. Then I think we should take a deep dive into something called the ” Reversal of mistakes”. Every unique mistake have got a very unique result or you may say failure.

Reversal of Mistakes.

Let’s have some reality check.

Reality check 1: Do you know why we fail? we do not fail because we didn’t give any effort but because we did not channelize it towards the right thing. We couldn’t see the red flags. Actually we ignored the green ones . Taking us back to our preparation times. Did we really listen to our problems? Did we realize where the efforts are needed? We have ignored it thinking its a small part. what impact it would even have? But remember every mistake you commit. you have to pay for it. Mistakes come with a price and the price is failure.

Reality check 2: We realize the reasons of our failure but we hardly actually accept it and suppose, we accept it we don’t really act upon it. This is even worse than not able to know which are green and which are red flags. Accepting isn’t the ultimate but the penultimate. Acting upon is the ultimate goal.

You must be thinking tell us about the ” reversal of mistakes”. How do we undo it? but to be honest there’s no such thing as reversal of mistakes. What’s done is done. Yes of course we cannot change what has already happened but we can definitely avoid the same mistakes. I know some exam or an activity doesn’t really define our whole being but are we ready to accept that?

Failure questions your being but when it does it also defines our value for success. Failure isn’t something that pulls us down but is something that lifts us up but also keeps us grounded. Failure builds our character. It gives us empathy. Empathy is greatest of all tool which we get through failure and no form of success can give us that. Accepting failure and acting upon the mistakes are success in itself . Its called growth and that’s what we seek out of Success. Isn’t it ?

“Failure isn’t something which is desired of but it is something which is necessary.”

-Mamita Mallick

lots of love ❤

Attachments and insecurities.

I don’t know if you could have the same thought as I do but I believe attachments and insecurities are two sides of one coin. These two terms are directly proportional to eachother. The more you’re attached to someone or something,the more you have the insecurities. You try to protect them,hide them somewhere safe and most probably fight with others for them.

Insecurities are both constructive and destructive. As the saying goes,nothing in excess is healthy. Insecurities beyond expectations are always toxic. We assume insecurities are the sign of pure love. But I question do you not trust your own love enough to not be insecure about something or someone? Or do you think they deserve better than you? What exactly are you insecure about?

I know it’s easier said than done but for a change let me question do you really really need to over protect someone that it feels stuck in your love. Taking forward the relationship between the attachment and the insecurities. Attachments that we experience from childhood are the root cause of insecurities. Someone who have gone through tragedy during childhood would always freak out for that thing.Because the fear always sets in in a child’s mind and usually end up developing inferiority complex.we start to assume and approve everything according to our past experiences .There are very few people who are able to surpass the energies of past but there are many individuals all over the world who are still stuck in their bitter past.

The way we’re bought up,the environment we survived in, all have some or other impact on our future. We are all surrounded with our experiences. But let’s be fair with the person we love. He or she may not have the same experiences ,same past.They may not be comfortable with what we are comfortable with. Let’s give them enough space to live in, support and respect them for what they stand for, respect their decisions and most importantly respect them and their freedom as a human being. ❤️

—Mamita Mallick

Lots of love ❤️

Inferiority complex

It’s hard to define your feelings when it comes about your whereabouts in life. The situation where you cannot find yourself. The situation where there’s haste to hate everyone around even though if it’s you.. !

Not able to speak to anyone,not able to introspect ,just feeling low ,even if breathing seems worthless.

You constantly ask yourself. who I am infront of him/her? He/she has what she /he wanted.what do I have?? The situation where you start hating yourself for who you are.Where you feel worthless as compared to the person you compare yourself and where you want to end everything.. !!

“Comparison isn’t lethal… But it’s fatal when it exceeds limits.” When it starts hurting you… there’s an imperative need to stop comparing yourself. Comparison has positive and negative impacts… It rests totally on individual choices…

There are 2 kinds of People.. !!

1.Who absorb the negativities and reflect positivity.

2.Who Reflect negativities and absorb positivity.

The former is lethal where as the later is harmless… In the former case the person allows the negativities to cover up the positive vibes… Whereas the later allows the postivity to whitewash the negativities.

It’s an individual choice and right to choose the right path of life. To get their life straight to the destination they proffered.

Stop comparing with others.Compare your present self with your previous self instead.This takes you towards the light of life and away from the darkness deception.