Old school Love ❤️

Hello readers or should I say lovers 😉, Have you experienced love recently? A question out of nowhere! 😃 I just wanted to talk about how love have evolved in the recent years than it used to be. How everyone expects a lot more or a lot less from love at the present times. The best thing about love is, it’s what you believe in. Now, what’s love for me may not be love for you. Mostly, it might not be same for our parents as well. When we ask our parents about love and how they met, very often we have heard it was an ‘arranged marriage’. Haven’t we? But behind this answer, there are a lot of things that our parents did for eachother which was not arranaged.

I know we love the idea of being independent and making our own money, but have you ever noticed how our parents shared the money inspite of one of them making it? They never named it yours or mine. They meant it when they said it is ‘ours’. I know our parents never showed their love infront of us but have you ever noticed our mothers cooking our father’s favourite food to make him happy and not miss his mother? To give the warmth of love in a bowl of curry. I know it’s not big of an effort but it is a gesture,a gesture of love and respect for eachother.

Being independent have made things easy in a relationship, and I do not doubt it, but have you ever done something as easy as picking up you partner from office or from airport not because they cannot do it by themselves but because you wanted to, like our fathers used to do for our mothers. It doesn’t make your partners dependent but it makes them see that you have their back. ❤️

Have you ever tried holding your partners luggage on a trip, make them comfortable in thier seats and take care of them just like a baby not because they are one but because you want them to rest after all the things that they do for you , to show gratitude and gratefulness to them, like our fathers used to do for our mothers.

Now, I do not know if we would be lucky to experience that kind of love but when we get it let us ensure that we double it for our partner, and that would be us being grateful to our partner. After all, Love is not about big efforts and big surprises,it is and it has always been an amalgamation of small gestures that we do for our partners. Love isn’t about proposing them in front of Eiffel tower🗼, It’s about meaning what you say even if it is in a corner of your house where you are preparing tea for your partner while it is raining outside like our fathers used to for our mothers. ❤️ or maybe vice-versa 😉

With love
Mamita ❤️

The next chapter!

Hey hello there! So, the year ends here! What a roller coaster it has been. Ya! I know, I know, Long time, no see. Haven’t wrote in a while but this year have taught me a lot of things.So, let me share my feelings with you and let me know in the comments if our feelings are mutual?

Another year full of adventures, travelling and experiences. I have mixed feelings about this year. You know december is my favourite time of the year. It doesn’t have one particular reason, it’s the cold wave that touches my face that feels so fresh, it’s the shorter days and the longer nights, the blanket and the hot coffee that reminds me that, well! I lived another year. December is not just a month but a celebration for me. The nostalgia that gives me of Foggy sports days in my school, the ice cream cone after my tution and the winter night walks with my favourite people. December reminds me the best part of my childhood. You may relate to any other form of happiness over the year like winter is for me.

Well in the rush of our lives, the race of which we have become a part unknowingly , we all are definely forgetting those feelings. Aren’t we? We all have lots on our check list to be completed in certain timeline, keeping ourselves unneccesarily occupied. It would have been so nice if we would have stopped following and comparing eachother’s timeline and accepted the fact that everyone has their own timeline, own pace to acheive in life. It’s not a competion, it’s not a destination either rather it is the journey you had matters.

This year started with self-doubt, confusion and restlessness. you know that feeling of getting stuck and not able to move forward? well! I felt the same about my job. Being an ambitious person, unable to navigate my career made me feel clueless and worthless. But here I am grateful for the people around me who uplifted my spirit and helped me to sail through this storm.Haha! Dramatic enough? Yes? No? Maybe?

Well we all have been a lot through out the year! Haven’t we? Well, the best part is that we all are here in december, overcame and enjoyed whatever came our way and lived through the year. I am proud of you and you should also feel the same about yourself.

The next year which is 2024 has a lot of surprises may be bad or may be good or maybe it might not feel anything but today let us promise ourselves to do better than we did this year. Be kind to others but most importantly to ourselves, empathetic towards others but also understand and accept that we are doing our best. It is now time that we acknowledge that some things are not in our hands and we need to forgive ourselves before anyone else to be at peace. Hoping this new year brings a lot of self awarness and self acceptance and may we all find peace with in ourselves and feel content with our lives. Let us promise ourselves to keep learning and growing no matter what!

To the people who have always been there for me! Thank you! and people who left, Thank you!
So, here we are, the year ends here! What a roller coaster it has been.

A LETTER TO MY BOYFRIEND.

Dear boyfriend,

This letter which I have written with all my love and care is to let you know that i love you to the moon and back. Starting from our day 1 you have been making me feel special by your efforts of staying by my side from my happiness to my sadness. From the sunshine to the sunset. Your presence makes me feel the happiest. you have been there with me all this time even when I’m intolerable. Thank you for cooling me down when i was not able to hold back my anger. Thank you for wiping my tears away and I can’t thank you enough for being the reason behind my smile.

I’m glad you were able to show me the real you. I’m glad you didn’t heasitate to cry on my shoulders and saying me that I was the one you wanted to LIVE WITH and LIVE FOR. Thank you for appreciating me for every single effort I made for you.Thank you for giving equal importance to your and my decisions and thank you for motivating me towards my goals and ambitions.You have always supported me for my passions and interests even when you weren’t really into it for which I can’t thank you enough.

Here it is to appreciate you, my love for being real to yourself as well as to other people around you. Thank you for handling my tantrums.Thank you for everything.I wish you all the happiness in the world.

HEY READERS OUT THERE. LIKE MY POST “A LETTER TO MY BOYFRIEND” IF YOU ALL ALSO RELATE TO THIS.AND ALSO SUGGEST WHAT TOPICS SHOULD I WRITE ON NEXT.ALSO DONOT FORGET TO SHARE THIS TO YOUR SPECIAL ONE TO MAKE THEIR DAY SPECIAL.
WITH LOVE
_ Mamita Mallick
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ESSENCE OF LOVE

LOVE,a feeling which according to me cannot be described but felt,which cannot be defined or put in words but can be absorbed from the morning breeze,can be seen in a child’s laugh,can be felt on mothers lap and fathers arm.Love is the keyword to the solution of every problem,love can change a gangster into a gentlemen and vice versa.The deeper you feel the love ,the deeper you feel the pain.It’s just directly proportional.Lets discuss the different kinds of love that a person feels through out his life.

LOVE OF MOTHER

A mother is a perfect combination of boldness-calmness and a perfect mix of innocence-truthfulness and a perfect blend of care-support.

In short a mother is the perfect form of love in this world full of imperfections.A baby experiences a mother’s love from the moment it is created in her womb and she loves her child unconditionally no matter what life gives.

LOVE OF FATHER

The ultimate form of unconditional love and respect.A father is the absolute example for his children s about the selflessness and kindness of love.The love without any expectations but hope.The love which should be two way equally but a father always gives more and takes less,which teaches us about the love without condition and with sacrifices.

LOVE OF SIBLINGS

A tom and jerry relation as we all know.Shouting on them to die but praying for them to be safe.This love is rather directly proportional to the fights .Even though you fight with them but you love them even more.From Beating each other for silly things to standing like wall infront of world to protect them.This love grows irrationally and unconditionally with time.

A LIFE PARTNER’S LOVE

This love is felt by a every person once in a lifetime at least.Teenage is the age when we usually feel the adrenaline rush.It all starts with a crush,like and love them for rest of your life .This kind of love can be one sided or may be the lucky ones get two sided.This love is the combination of all the three above loves. A partners loves strengthens you,motivates you and also supports you and above all liberates you.It is purely based on partnership both in good and bad times.If you find someone who sacrifices for you,aspires you and makes you a better person never let them go.

True Love has always been about unconditional love like father’s love,safe love like mother’s love ,strong love like sibling’s love and partnership like life partner’s love.I have always believed “LOVE IS NEVER WRONG .BUT A PERSON CAN BE”.(from ” FEW THINGS LEFT USAID”-SUDEEP NAGARKAR. So never blame love for your wrong descisions on love because when its right it stays forever and heals you and when it’s wrong it also destroys you.
Mamita Mallick