I assume it’s a fact that everyone of us have been taken for granted and have taken someone for granted on some point of time. Whether or not you agree with me but you would definitely agree with yourself. Am I right?
Even more, we all have taken ourselves for granted at most of the times. We have all forgot about loving ourselves before loving someone else,kept us in the last priority while fitting others in the first.Its not that we have been body shamed by others but we have ourselves body shamed us at times. Ignoring our self-care and self -respect the zillion times and just focusing on adding the people we think are productive to our life. We expect others to bring love , support,care and respect for us instead of doing it ourselves.No, I don’t blame you for doing that. That’s what makes us human right? Because humans often have expectations at peak when it’s especially from others. But for a change can we just do those cool little things for ourselves and stop expecting for and from others. And stop TAKING OURSELVES FOR GRANTED.
Everyone of us will know the pain of being taken for granted.Because that happens when we realize that we have overdone things.we realise things not working out the ways we wanted it to be. That is when we realize the things are not meant to be and that is when we know the true colours of someone when we assumed to know everything about that person.
Have you ever wondered ,what must be going on in the mind of the person who’s taking someone for granted.I guess the mighty feeling they get ,the pleasure they get out of our attention and the realisation of never getting ignored or left out by the person who’s giving efforts to that relationship gives them enough power to proceed with these things and which usually takes away the mental peace of the other.
It’s very painful and difficult to overcome the level of anger,frustration,sadness and the underwhelmed feeling when you realise you are being taken for granted. May be you don’t dare to accept the truth sometimes.you start to underestimate yourselves, Dive into depression without even knowing and start to loose your appetite.
I am no expert to guide you through the depression but a victim could ofcourse suggest the other victims. Right?
Keeping yourself positive is near to impossible thing. The uncountable positive quotes,jokes, stories, articles you read would help you survive through out the day but at night you tend to soften and run back to that person.But that is a big mistake. No,I am not suggesting to break a relationship and just run away because a relationship is build with all the efforts and time. But you need to realise your own worth.Look back somewhere you are valued and preserved not where you are used. Differentiate between what you need and what you want. What will make you strong is thinking “ONLY YOU CAN HEAL YOURSELF,AND NO ONE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR HEALING”. Repeat this every single time you want to go back somewhere you are taken for granted. May be the memories rush ,you feel weak mentally and physically both.but keep reminding yourself you’re worthy ❤️
Be your own first love ,
Date yourselves first ❤️💕
—Mamita Mallick
Lots of love ❤️
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